“How Sister Chinita Found Her Worth and Walked into Divine Love”

Domestic violence can affect both men and women, and it’s important to understand what it truly means. It is defined as violent or aggressive behavior within the home, most often involving the abuse of a spouse or partner. But beyond the definition are the real people who suffer, the emotional scars they carry, and the strength it takes to break free.

There is never any justification for abuse of any kind—physical, emotional, or mental. That’s why Sister Chinita’s story is so powerful. She bravely shares her journey of overcoming pain, rediscovering her self-worth, and finding the courage to never accept mistreatment again. Her testimony serves as a beacon of hope for other women, especially the younger generation, encouraging them to see their value, set boundaries, and never allow love to come at the cost of their peace or safety.

“My Story: From Broken Love to Becoming Whole”

by Sister Chinita—a journey of faith, resilience, and self-discovery.

For most of my adult life, I found myself caught in a painful cycle of toxic relationships and situationships. I’d leave one unhealthy connection only to find myself in another—each one, somehow, worse than the last.

I spent years trying to convince the men I was with that I was “the one,” that I was worth choosing. But no matter how deeply I loved, how much I forgave, or how fiercely I proved my loyalty, the pattern stayed the same. Every man I had been with cheated—and every time, I forgave. I thought that standing by my man would make him finally see my worth. But it never did.

It wasn’t until I ended the most toxic relationship of all—one that crossed into domestic abuse—that I finally stopped and looked inward. That moment became my turning point.

For two years, I committed to doing the work—not to find another relationship, but to finally understand myself. I reflected on my patterns, my pain, and my participation in my own heartbreak. I had to take radical ownership of who I had been in all those relationships—the parts of me that accepted less, stayed too long, and confused love with endurance.

The truth hit hard: I had never truly valued or loved myself. My self-esteem had been shattered by years of negative self-talk, broken promises, and deep self-doubt. Then came a powerful realization—people cannot love or respect you in ways you have not learned to love or respect yourself.

As I grew older and began healing, I understood that we all carry some form of trauma. The difference lies in whether we face it or continue running from it. Healing requires courage—the courage to confront the ugly truth, acknowledge it, forgive what hurt us, and free ourselves from the weight of it.

Most of us carry unhealed wounds into our relationships, unaware of how deeply they influence who and what we attract. Once I began recognizing my patterns and working on my inner dialogue—speaking life over myself through affirmations, setting boundaries, and practicing self-respect—the tide began to shift.

I realized that my relationships, romantic or otherwise, were mirrors reflecting how I saw myself. The moment I began treating myself like I was worthy, the energy around me began to change.

I often hear women say, “There aren’t any good men left.” But I’ve learned that’s not true. The men we attract are often reflections of the energy we project. When you love yourself, respect yourself, and carry yourself like the Queen you are, you naturally attract people who recognize your worth—because you’ve already claimed it.

My mother used to say, “We teach people how to treat us.” And she was right.

So, to my sisters: if you want to be treated like the prize, start believing that you are one. Show up as her. Speak like her. Live like her. Every day, in every space, hold your head high and refuse to settle for anything less than what you truly deserve.

Because the love you seek—starts with you.

-Sister Chinita-

Today, Sister Chinita stands as a living testimony that healing is possible. God has blessed her with a loving husband who cherishes her, honors her, and embraces her children as his own. Together, they’ve built a foundation rooted in faith and genuine love. Her story is not only about pain—it’s about redemption, divine restoration, and the beauty that comes when you finally realize your worth.

If anyone is experiencing domestic violence, please seek help immediately. Protect your life by any means necessary—you deserve safety, love, and healing.

"If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please CALL 911. For crisis and counseling services, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787-3224."