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Marriage isn't 50/50

Marriage is often viewed as a sacred union instituted by God. In scripture marriage is depicted as a covenant between a man and a woman. Marriage is also considered a solemn contract between a man and a woman. Marriage is a means of companionship, love, a means of companionship, and tranquility.

So why did God give one degree higher to the man when it comes to the responsibility of having a wife and family? Men have been given the role of leadership and headship within the family unit, with the responsibility to provide for and protect their wives and children.

Ephesians 5:23 "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Ephesians 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

In traditional views of marriage specific gender roles, with men and women are expected to fulfill different duties based on perceived differences in abilities, strengths, and societal expectations. For instance, men may be expected to take on the role of provider and protector, while women may be expected to take on the role of caregiver and homemaker.

If a man is considering marriage , being financial stabile ensures that a couple can meet their basic needs, such as food, shelter, and healthcare. It provides a sense of security and comfort, reducing stress and anxiety about financial hardships. A man should lead a family with love rather than dictatorship as a healthier and more fulfilling approach to family dynamics. A man's worth should not be solely defined by his financial success or material possessions. Instead, his character, integrity, values, and actions should be considered as the true measure of his worth.

When a man leads his family with love, he sets a positive example for his children and other family members. They learn valuable lessons about compassion, kindness, and healthy communication, which they can carry into their own relationships and interactions.

Remember, God gave the responsibility of maintainer to the man NOT the woman if he is to be head of the house hold. When a man can successfully overcome obstacles it can boost self-confidence and self-esteem. Each time a man conquers a difficulty, it reinforces his belief in his capabilities and resourcefulness, empowering him to tackle new challenges with greater confidence. These characteristics makes for a good leader ,husband and father.

A man who habitually avoids challenges and responsibilities may not be compatible with a woman seeking a committed and supportive partner who can share the joys and burdens of life together.

With today's inflation constantly going up, financial stability looks different for each couple, depending on their individual circumstances, goals, and priorities. It's essential for couples to have open and honest discussions about their finances, including their income, expenses, debts, and financial goals, to ensure that they are on the same page and can make informed decisions together.

Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything."

This scripture verse is calling for wives to submit to their husbands' leadership within the marriage. Submission within marriage should be based on mutual respect and consideration for one another's needs and desires. It's not about one partner exerting control over the other, but rather about willingly deferring to each other out of love and respect. Women have to be careful of adopting radical feministic ideology. It has no place in a marriage no different than male chauvinistic characteristics. Some radical feminists teaches that submitting to a husband is control and ownership of women, which is completely false.

Submission does not imply that a woman's voice or opinions are unimportant. Healthy marriages involve open communication and shared decision-making, where both partners contribute their perspectives and work together to make decisions that benefit the family as a whole.

A woman's occupation, college degree, or financial status alone does not determine her ability to be a good wife, mother, or homemaker. A woman's character, values, and personal qualities play a significant role in her ability to be a good wife, mother, and homemaker. Qualities such as kindness, empathy, patience, resilience, and dedication are essential for nurturing strong relationships and creating a loving and supportive home environment.

Being a homemaker or housewife is noble and honorable. Managing a household requires a range of organizational, planning, and problem-solving skills. Housewives often excel in areas such as budgeting, meal planning, home maintenance, and time management, ensuring that the household runs smoothly and efficiently.

 Many women choose to work part-time to contribute to their family's finances while still maintaining their role as a homemaker and caregiver. Balancing part-time work with homemaking responsibilities allows women to contribute financially while also prioritizing their families and personal lives. Many women find fulfillment and satisfaction in their careers or professional pursuits and may choose to continue working part-time to maintain a connection to the workforce and pursue personal interests and goals. Part-time work can provide a sense of purpose, accomplishment, and personal growth outside of the home.

 Household tasks, such as cooking, cleaning, and maintaining the home, should be shared responsibilities between partners, rather than falling solely on one person's shoulders. Open communication and collaboration can help ensure that both partners contribute to the household in ways that feel fair and equitable.

Regardless of how household responsibilities are divided, it's important for partners to show appreciation and gratitude for each other's contributions. Recognizing and valuing the effort and care that each partner puts into maintaining the home fosters a sense of connection, respect, and appreciation within the relationship.

Laziness can hinder effective communication and problem-solving within the marriage. When one partner consistently neglects their responsibilities or fails to fulfill their commitments, it can lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and breakdowns in communication, making it difficult to address issues and find solutions together.  It's essential for both partners to demonstrate a commitment to actively engaging in the relationship, sharing responsibilities, and supporting each other's needs in order to build a strong, resilient, and fulfilling marriage.

Effective communication is essential for a healthy marriage. Couples must learn to communicate openly, honestly, and respectfully with each other, expressing their needs, desires, and concerns while actively listening to their partner's perspective. Learning effective communication skills takes time and effort but is crucial for building trust, intimacy, and understanding within the relationship.

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but learning to manage and resolve conflicts constructively is vital for a healthy marriage. Couples must develop effective conflict resolution skills, such as active listening, empathy, and problem-solving, to address issues in a respectful and constructive manner. Marriage is a journey of continuous growth and learning, both individually and as a couple. Couples must be willing to invest in their personal development, seek opportunities for self-reflection and growth, and actively nurture their relationship through ongoing effort and commitment.

A married couple should give an honest 100% of themselves individually to make things work. Honesty is the bedrock of trust in a relationship. When partners are honest with each other, they demonstrate integrity and reliability, which fosters trust and confidence in the relationship. Trust forms the basis for open communication, vulnerability, and emotional connection between partners.

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